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你是我的妈妈吗?我的妈妈在哪里?奶奶再好也代替不了妈妈

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Are you my mother? Where is the "my" mother? Why can't I be with my mom and dad? These three sentences are from the mouth of a four-year-old boy.

The talking boy often plays with my son. He is called Zi Xuan. He lives in his grandparents' home. Grandpa likes to go out to play. In addition to eating and sleeping at home during the day, he plays with his old friends in the park at other times. Only his grandmother is taking him every day.

Once, we went to play in the small park near the house. The two children were very happy. On the way back, I went to the place to be separated. I took my son home. The boy’s grandmother took the boy and went back. The boy had some The temper, unhappy grandmother shouted: "Why can I be with my mother, why can't I be with my mom and dad?"

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Grandma listened, slowed down, sighed and patiently said to the child: "Dad and mother are busy with work, and after two days, Dad will pick you up at the weekend." The child did not speak for a long time, and finally Grandma Take his hand home.

Grandma paused for a long time, with a look of exhaustion and helplessness. But she never complained and was very talkative. In the later chat, I realized that this grandson was a big one after the full moon. The child has been living in the grandmother's house and seeing her parents once a weekend. When Dad is busy working overtime, it may be seen once in two weeks. When he was young, he didn’t understand anything. Grandma took him out to play, and saw that other children were accompanied by father and mother. Because of the uncommon mother, I forgot my mother's appearance and asked my grandmother: "Are you my mother? Where is my mother?"

According to my grandmother, my son and daughter-in-law live nearby, they all have to work, and the burden of taking care of their grandchildren falls on the shoulders of the elderly,

xx无论是从工作还是从家庭条件上看,她们家经济上没问题,媳妇工作也在家附近,时间上完全有机会照顾孩子,至于媳妇为什么不愿意每天回来看一眼孩子,其中的原因外人不得而知

但是孩子出生了,父母就有责任和义务抚养他长大,孩子心里渴望父母的爱和陪伴,他不懂大人之间的矛盾和冲突,相隔一条马路,却犹如千万里远,在孩子的幼年与父母生活在一起,是建立正确亲子依恋关系的关键期,如果在这个时期,孩子无法与父母建立依恋关系,将来长大成人,会影响他的感情甚至婚姻生活。

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这就是为什么有的男孩在感情中想要寻找能给他母爱感觉的女生,而在现实中,这样的感情是几乎不存在的,两个人是平等独立的主体,没有女生愿意像个妈妈一样付出。而在童年缺乏父爱的女孩,在成人后的感情需求会偏向于温暖,呵护,有领导魅力的男生,实则还是内心里缺乏父爱,在寻求父爱的依恋。在感情和婚姻中,无论哪一方,把亲密关系与亲情的依恋关系弄混了,当你开始期待另一方像父母一样付出时,婚姻就会面临危机。

所以年轻的父母,无论你们工作多忙,如果可以,就少参加一次聚会,早点回家,陪孩子吃顿晚饭;如果可以,少逛一次街,陪孩子玩半天;如果可以,少一点个人享受,每天回趟家见孩子一面。不管奶奶把孩子照顾得多好,但她终究不是妈妈,祖孙爱弥补不了孩子想要的父母爱。

XX紫轩很幸运。虽然她每天都看不到她的父母,但是奶奶非常小心地照顾他并且爱他。成年人之间存在矛盾。她还努力以积极和积极的方式塑造她父母的形象。与紫轩相比,邻居大宝并不那么幸运。大宝的父亲属于晚婚和晚婚。大宝的祖母不容易期待她的孙子。她爱她的孙子,她的孩子在哭。我妈妈刚起床,我的祖母冲了上去。在周末,孩子们应该出去和他们的母亲一起玩。奶奶赶紧停了下来。在光明的一面,她说她的母亲应该好好休息。她对她的孩子说:“大宝,和奶奶出去吃点零食。如果和妈妈出去吃饭,你就不用吃了。哦。”我吃饭的时候,妈妈教大宝练习自己吃。当我的祖母看到它时,她放下碗,开始喂大宝吃饭.

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奶奶喜欢她的孙子并且爱他,但她以母亲的身份承认一切,让大宝的母亲生气。事实上,在这,奶奶很难,但她愿意付钱,但实际上,无论她愿意如何支付,她都是过关,大宝有自己的母亲,母亲是母亲,母亲可以给孩子的爱是奶奶无法替代的。我们每个人都爱孩子,有不同的身份,有不同的界限,拥有边界,尊重他们对孩子的爱。

无论是因为家庭冲突还是因为边界问题,照顾孩子作为母亲,或者在孩子作为母亲的童年时代无助,我们必须真正“看到”孩子并听取孩子的意见。内心的声音,他心中想要什么?

忙于工作的年轻父母,无论贫穷还是富裕,事实上,孩子最想要的只不过是父母的陪伴和爱。

生活是被迫的,为了生存,我们真的需要放弃一些东西,赚钱才能生存;但如果你有选择,只要带着孩子就会感到疲惫和辛苦,但如果生活可以继续下去,尽量把孩子带到旁边,让孩子们看到爸爸妈妈。

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当您的孩子需要父母在幼年时陪伴您时,您正在忙着赚钱;当你的孩子长大,你变老,当你需要和你在一起时,孩子们忙于工作,我们可以真正地与孩子相处,彼此多年的陪伴只是这些年的童年,珍惜一刻,珍惜占有!